The Caveat of Maybe

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Somewhere between a definite Yes or No is the caveat of Maybe. Before we debate why or whether it is an unsatisfactory place holder, let’s insert Maybe in a number of everyday responses.

“Shall we have a picnic today?”

Maybe.

“Is buying this iPhone a good idea?”

Maybe.

“Do they own half my business if I sign this contract?”

Maybe

“Will you marry me?”

Maybe can mean ‘it’s possible’ or ‘it depends’. The word itself isn’t the problem. It gives us time and space to explore the other options, implications or actions. So Maybe is handy when we need more time.

However, use it wisely. It can also come across as indecisive or not committed; or more dangerous… fobbing off. You could be saying ‘I’m actually not interested at all. I just want to look like I am’.

Maybe itself is not a bad place to be if you know why you’re there. Do you need additional information? Are you unprepared? Would other things you haven’t taken into account now become urgent? Are there other options you still want to explore?

There is an old reggae song which goes “Let your yeah be yeah…”. Maybes hold you back from doing that. It can make us look shifty as the lyrics go on to explain “Because, I’m on my guard and I’m watching you from head to toe”.

To maybe or not to maybe… that is the question.

DEALING WITH MAYBES

1. Let your No be no. If your Maybe is only holding off inevitable bad news (i.e. you already know it’s a No but you are trying to be ‘nice’)… Don’t. We may not want to rock the boat, but our indecision affects how other people get on. It’s the Abilene Paradox (which you can look up in your own time). As soon as we can, turn that Maybe into a No by saying so. Deal with it and move on. We are only wasting time and energy. And the longer that limbo lasts, the more bitter it feels. Let it go, let it gooooo :-)

2. Be optimistic about Yes. Think of Yes and No as a ladder – with Yes at the top and No at the bottom. Now you’ve got rid of the definite No, work your way up step-by-step towards a Yes. This may involve a lot of soul searching and challenging some deeply held perceptions. It might mean addressing other situations, contracts or conversations which could impact this one (or vice versa). Working towards Yes could still mean we get stuck at a No. However we’ll have a greater understanding of why this No is a definite no.

3. Share the Maybes. Whether our decision is about ourselves or involves someone else, sharing the possible outcomes can really help give clarity. We tend to be surrounded with people like ourselves so be thorough when exploring your Maybe. Speak to others who aren’t in the same boat. Chat with a freelancer about being self employed rather than your office mates. Network with successful investors rather than others managing multiple overdrafts. Seek advice from people other than your girlfriends – they already share your point of view.

What makes us appear confident is being direct and decisive. More yes and no; fewer maybes.

Life Happens!

I won’t be beaten by life and neither will you… Together, we will face difficult situations with courage and always find a solution.

A belated Happy and Hopeful New Year.

The last time I wrote here, the plan was to share a summary of the journey to date for all who were interested in writing a book in a year #IWillWriteTheBook. Excited and optimistic, I looked forward to that Thursday evening slot in my diary dedicated to blogging and writing. It never came. Life showed up instead.

Just a day before my sacred Thursday, I received a phone call from my mother saying not to worry but my father had been taken to hospital. And with that, any sort of plan went out of the window. CRASH! Life had taken over. Eight weeks later he’s still here (I’m actually writing this sitting in the hospital cafe).

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This is what Life does all the time. We make plans. We hope to get them done. Then Life gives us something else to focus on and it’s “bye-bye plans”.

But this IS life. It’s unpredictable. It’s uncertain and just when you manage to get everything in balance – along it comes and tips it over. We pick up the pieces, regroup and set about getting back to ‘normal’.  I won’t be beaten by life and neither will you.

So here’s my notice to Life.

Dear Life.

Thank you for the many interesting ways you try to influence our plans. This coming year, a few of us are getting together to work on how to stay balanced. With our blogs and events, we’ll be looking at ways to keep family, friends, faith and finances all working out the way we want them. We’re not going to ignore you. No, in fact, we’re going to use what you’ve already shown us about who you are to become better at handling what you throw at us. 2015 is going be a year where we learn to balance.

Together, we will face difficult situations with courage and always find a solution.

Thank you and good night.

PS. Watch this space. The #IWillWriteTheBook summary is coming soon.

It’s not a light bulb that appears… it’s a chandelier!

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I love watching battle rap videos to see creativity at work. Watching how they respond to things being chucked at them live. I have a blog planned on ‘What Battle Rap taught me’ coming in 2015. Until then, here’s a cute quote that made me want to change the tagline for Ideas Genius. Video on our Facebook page.

“When we have ideas, it’s not a light bulb that appears… it’s a chandelier”

#Classic

FREE LUNCH #4 | The Art of Networking

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Thanks to @RachelYvonne podcast, here’s The Art of Networking again.

Originally posted on Ideas Genius:

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Networking is important. Here’s why and how to do it to help your business or brand become more successful. Firstly though, why network at all?

  1. Grows your clients, customers, consumers or congregation. We become more successful by selling or sharing what we do with more people. Networking gives you a bigger pond from which to fish.
  2. Grows your suppliers, supporters, sponsors or specialists. We maintain success by making the best use of our resources. Others have access, expertise or finances that will make that task easier.

So how do I network? Networking isn’t a beauty pageant. You’re not simply showing off how pretty your company or idea is. Neither is it about collecting as many business cards as you can. It’s about the contacts on those cards and how they can help you grow.  Here’s what to do.

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Would You Jump? Would You Heck!

photo courtesy of peakbagger.com

photo courtesy of peakbagger.com

Belief is everything.

If you didn’t believe you could make it safely across an eight foot ravine, would you jump? Sure you could practice… but HOW would you practice? You could perfect the run-up. Heck, you could become the best running-upper in the land. You could analysis the ravine with forensic detail. You would know so much them you could write books on ravines. You’d even be able to hypothesise about perfect, flawless landings. BUT would we ACTUALLY jump? Would we heck!

It’s something we all come up against… FEAR. The complete opposite of faith. Faith is when you believe something is possible. Which must make fear the belief that something isn’t possible. Yes, fear is a belief. It’s not just a thought about what might go wrong. It’s a significant difference. Fear is something you actually invest in.

Belief is everything. If you believe you can make a difference, you will try. In the past month, I’ve seen a number of problems… no, let’s call them opportunities to do something different. There were a couple of surveys on diversity and identity doing the rounds, multiple campaigns regarding Ebola relief efforts, Children in Need’s television marathon and shocking examples of police injustice. Watching my own response to each campaign has been an eye opener. Where I felt (believed) I could make a difference, I engaged fully. I sent that text, filled out a forms, visited the websites, sent money. Whatever the required action was, I got involved – but only if a) I believed in the cause and b) I believed I could make a difference. And then there were causes I felt were a good idea BUT that was as far as it went. No further action. Oh dear. How sad. Never mind.

See, believing is everything. When your belief is stronger than your fear… or your apathy… or your indecision, you do something. And DOING is what makes things happen.

Our new baby… unedited:

Like all births (because you’ve had lots of kids MISTER Ideas Genius), it’s taken a while but we’ve made it. We’re proud to officially introduce unedited: –  our very own production company for video, audio and interactive content. So we make films and TV, radio programmes and podcasts, and help improve the way you can use your stuff on the internet.

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We’re very excited that Ideas Genius had made this possible as it has been a dream for a while. Now it’s airborne, we can all go back to work – like writing blog posts which might be (ahem) a little overdue. Really? Another baby pun? :)

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